Every woman knows a woman like her. She\u2019s the one that saunters casually into a man\u2019s life, has her fun, then rips his heart out and leaves him after emptying his wallet. You look at her and you know she\u2019s all about sex.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She looks so good in a micro-mini skirt and thigh high boots it\u2019s as if they were invented for her. She probably rocks scandalous, gasp-inducing garter belts and corsets in the bedroom, too. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

She causes men to salivate the moment she walks into a room, strutting her stuff like she owns the place.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She sleeps around. Everybody knows it. She doesn\u2019t even try to hide her sexual appetites.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She\u2019s your wild, sexy, flirty, flighty counterpart. She\u2019s the bad girl you secretly envy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cMany a woman has had the frustrating experience of loving a man who is oblivious to her because he is swept up in the drama of loving a bad girl, instead,\u201d says psychiatrist and writer Carole Lieberman.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Many women have had the frustrating experience of loving a man who is swept up in the drama of loving a bad girl.<\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n
What Makes Bad Girls So Sexy?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
On the surface, the bad girl\u2019s charisma can be both intimidating and baffling to other women. Not all men are boneheads, after all. The best ones are smart as whips. They know exactly the type of woman they need for a happy, healthy, loving relationship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
But even the smartest guy is unlikely to choose the safe, wholesome, church-going girl when there\u2019s a bad girl stalking around.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In a room full of good girls, he\u2019ll fight anyone for the girl who will betray him, mess with his head, and break his heart.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
So, just what is it that makes a bad girl so alluring?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cBad is naughty, and naughty is sexy.\u201d<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
For many men, the bad girl is extremely seductive. Bad is wayward. Bad is uncontrollable. Bad is deliciously wild.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
When cleverly utilized, these qualities can be irresistible. So much so that in the everyday language of the street, men have turned the word “bad” into a synonym for “sexy.” So, when she walks by, we hear:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cDamn, she’s so bad I\u2019d kill to spend a night with her.\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n
Dating coach Joshua Pompey and writer Paul Hudson say a big part of the attraction is the bad girl\u2019s wantonness, which men find incredibly appealing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cWhen men think of bad girls, they imagine a woman who is sexually free, open for adventure, and just doesn’t care what other people think of her,\u201d says Pompey.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cThese are women who play by their own rules and will try just about anything once.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In short, men can do bad \u2013 or naughty – things to a bad woman. She\u2019ll not only agree to them, she\u2019ll probably enjoy herself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cBad is naughty, and naughty is sexy,\u201d says Hudson. \u201cGood, on the other hand, sounds predictable.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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For many men, the bad girl is extremely seductive.<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n
Bad girls often look sexy and attractive.<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
Washington-based psychologist Jill Weber says that, from a very early age, girls learn to make other people feel happier. They learn to value good behavior, and because of that, they hear praise more often. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
But then there are girls who cherish their appearance more than they do the idea of \u2018goodness.\u2019 And it\u2019s precisely because they lavish more attention on their appearance that they often look better. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cYou won’t spot a bad girl wearing sweatpants in public,\u201d says writer Jillian Kramer for *Glamour <\/em>magazine.<\/p>\n\n\n\n*
*\u201cRather, her outfits scream sex appeal, and she’s perfected her smoky eye application to jealousy-inducing perfection.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n*
Because she puts so much effort into her physical appearance, the bad girl doesn\u2019t need to ask any man if she looks good. She knows she looks good \u2013 and she is never afraid to show it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
*Her skirts are shorter, the cut of her dress is lower, and her heels are higher. That adds to her already smoking hot appeal. <\/p>\n\n\n\n*
*\u201cNothing can make a plain girl look more beautiful than self-confidence,\u201d says Lieberman.<\/p>\n\n\n\n*
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Because she puts so much effort into her physical appearance, the bad girl doesn\u2019t need to ask any man if she looks good.<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n
The bad girl is a master seductress.<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
The bad girl is a cunning seductress. Because she does not seek serious relationships, she can focus solely on sexual gratification.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
She has learned to enjoy the thrill of being the coveted object of men\u2019s desires, says psychologist Leon Seltzer for *Psychology Today<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n*
*Lieberman shares the same opinion.<\/p>\n\n\n\n*
*When a bad girl tries to steal your man, she will do so not because she wants him, but because she can.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n*
*If he manages to resist her advances, she will not sit at home and mope. Instead, she will keep herself visible by going out and having a good time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n*
\u201cA bad girl,\u201d says Lieberman, \u201cis like a fisherman who lets the bait dangle close to the fish\u2019s mouth and then pulls it away a little bit, then lets it dangle and pulls it away … until he can\u2019t help but swallow it hook, line, and sinker.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
*While it may seem like the bad girl has it all, she does not. She has experienced pain and betrayal, too – perhaps more than most. <\/p>\n\n\n\n*
*The bad girl oftentimes becomes who she is after being betrayed by a number of men, starting with her father, says Lieberman.<\/p>\n\n\n\n*
*\u201cA bad girl has taken her heart off her sleeve and has hardened it,\u201d she adds. <\/p>\n\n\n\n*
*This actually works to her advantage in attracting men. Men are drawn to tough women with looks and charisma – and a bad girl has all that in abundance. <\/p>\n\n\n\n*
*The key is in her attitude. She is confident about her appearance and is candid about what she wants.<\/p>\n\n\n\n*
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The bad girl has learned to enjoy the thrill of being the coveted object of men\u2019s desires.<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n
What Nice Girls Can Learn from Bad Girls<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
Without a doubt, the foremost lesson nice girls can learn from bad girls is a healthy attitude toward sex.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cA bad girl gets what she wants because she goes for it,\u201d Kramer says.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cGood girls can get what they want too, by identifying their desires and being open to expressing them.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Of course, the bad girl\u2019s most powerful spell is the promise of hot sex, which she uses to her advantage. While few would want to be as predatory – and you don’t have to be – Pompey says it helps women to be confident about their sexuality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cThe best thing a nice girl can do to attract a man is to demonstrate alluring qualities a bad girl has, without actually being a bad girl,\u201d says the New York City dating expert. \u201cKnow what men want from women.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
What’s your story? Are you the ‘smoking hot’ bad girl, the wanna be or just an observer at the back of the room<\/a>? Why not share your tale here?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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