Physically touch in a romantic way that doesn\u2019t have to lead to sex<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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When was the last time you had a long, lasting kiss? Or a hug that lingered for more than two seconds?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Stop making your partner \u201cwrong\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
My friend Alexandra, an intimacy expert, taught me this important lesson: Someone who is wrong all the time is not sexy at all! When we criticize our partners non-stop, we become less attracted to them. How can a person who is wrong all the time seem sexy to you?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
You\u2019re allowed to disagree without anyone being wrong \u2014 for example, if your partner refuses to get into the plant-based meat substitutes you\u2019re loving, validate your partner\u2019s side of things. \u201cI like veggie burgers, but I respect your meat-loving nature!\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
A wrong person doesn\u2019t feel sexy or attractive, to you or to themselves. So stop trying to win fights. It\u2019s killing both of your sex drives<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n You can also ask questions!<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n Instead of jumping into conflict as a reflex, use it as a chance to get to know each other better. For example, instead of saying, \u201cYou\u2019re too stingy with money when it comes to eating out!\u201d Ask, \u201cWhat are you saving for? Tell me what you want in the future.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n Being open-minded fosters closeness and intimacy, allowing you to understand your partner in a whole new way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Choose curiosity over judgment<\/p>\n\n\n\n Instead of using critical language such as saying something is bad\/boring\/dumb\/annoying, be curious instead. \u201cThis isn\u2019t a TV show I\u2019d normally watch, but I see you love it \u2014 what\u2019s so good about it?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n Bonus relationship hack<\/p>\n\n\n\n Whatever you\u2019re telling your partner helps shape what they become. Your life partner is your biggest decision and most important teammate \u2013 so be on their side! You reap the benefits, too.<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n There\u2019s an old joke I love: A husband and wife are driving around in their hometown, where he is the mayor. They stop to get some petrol, whereupon the wife recognizes the attendant as a high-school boyfriend. After they drive off, her husband tells her, smugly, \u201cSee, if you\u2019d married him, you\u2019d be working at a petrol station.\u201d The wife replies, \u201cIf I\u2019d married him, he\u2019d be the mayor.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n Touch, respect, admiration, and building each other up \u2014 these are all sexy behaviours that will bring you much more closeness than focusing on problems. A few new pieces of lingerie <\/a>won’t hurt either as they will boost your self-esteem while adding extra anticipation for what is coming! Remember, your emotional connection enhances your physical connection \u2014 they\u2019re entwined.<\/p>\n\n\n\n give a rose – unexpected act of kindness<\/p>\n\n\n\n Write down the three most memorable things that first attracted you to your partner<\/p>\n\n\n\n Plan a night ‘out’ at home\u2026 without the kids<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n If you’ve been in a long-term relationship you’ve probably hit some intimacy gaps. It may seem that ‘the spark’ just isn’t there anymore but you can light that flame again. Here are X ways to kickstart it again. Think loving, sexy thoughts toward your partner Look at them through the eyes of someone who might […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":323,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_seopress_robots_primary_cat":"","_seopress_titles_title":"","_seopress_titles_desc":"","_seopress_robots_index":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[17,43],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-322","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-couples","category-lifestyle"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/mysecretdrawer.co\/stories\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/322","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/mysecretdrawer.co\/stories\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/mysecretdrawer.co\/stories\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mysecretdrawer.co\/stories\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mysecretdrawer.co\/stories\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=322"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/mysecretdrawer.co\/stories\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/322\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mysecretdrawer.co\/stories\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/323"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/mysecretdrawer.co\/stories\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=322"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mysecretdrawer.co\/stories\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=322"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mysecretdrawer.co\/stories\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=322"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}![\"Whatever](\"https:\/\/mysecretdrawer.com\/stories\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/14\/2022\/04\/pexels-tatiana-twinslol-5368744-683x1024.jpg\")
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