{"id":273,"date":"2023-10-05T06:53:14","date_gmt":"2023-10-05T06:53:14","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/stories.mysecretdrawer.co\/2023\/10\/05\/bdsm-sadomasochism-and-you-maybe\/"},"modified":"2023-10-05T06:53:14","modified_gmt":"2023-10-05T06:53:14","slug":"bdsm-sadomasochism-and-you-maybe","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mysecretdrawer.co\/stories\/bdsm-sadomasochism-and-you-maybe\/","title":{"rendered":"BDSM, Sadomasochism and You… Maybe!"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Maybe you’re already there. Maybe you’re just curious and willing to find out if it’s for you. Maybe you’re just fascinated to think that some people like to hurt and humiliate while others like to be hurt and humiliated.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then there’s the big question of boundaries – from both sides. How much pain (or humiliation) is enough to excite and stimulate? When does pain become, well, just pain? The rules of engagement have to be cast in stone because when two people play this game, their thresholds are guaranteed to be different. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Is BDSM aberrant behaviour?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Many people still consider BDSM activities to be a form of mental illness – an excuse for the dominant partner to abuse and belittle his or her submissive partner. They view couples who engage in sadomasochism as being in unhealthy relationships. While I would never suggest that abusive relationships do exist, by definition, such relationships ignore one very important factor… consent! Consent is the defining difference between a healthy BDSM liaison or relationship and an abusive one. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thanks to the sexual revolution that’s accelerated acceptance of many things over the past 50 years, BDSM is now considered by many to be an exciting recreational activity. Professionals in the psychological well-being field recognize that BDSM can be associated with better personal comfort and satisfaction. That’s because BDSM<\/a> concentrates on mutual<\/em> and beneficial<\/em> sex activity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost, BDSM is not a form of maltreatment or inhumanity. These activities do not<\/em> involve hurting without consent. Trauma isn’t the goal; it\u2019s about finding ways to satisfy you and your partner\u2019s sexuality in exciting rough play but in a safe way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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it\u2019s about finding ways to satisfy you and your partner\u2019s sexuality in exciting rough play but in a safe way.<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

What is BDSM?<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

It’s the abbreviation for bondage & discipline, dominance & submission, and submission & masochism. Also known as sadomasochism, it covers a selection of scenarios and roles. Not surprisingly, sex is the most common goal of these scenarios, but others do not include sex. For some couples, it’s all about energy and spirituality they experience from their sessions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In any BDSM session, there is a dominant and a submissive. The scene is controlled by the dom (on the top) and the sub (on the bottom) will obediently follow the dom. The husband might play the dom role, while the wife plays the submissive role. On another occasion, they might switch roles – after all, revenge is said to be sweet! <\/p>\n\n\n\n

It may take some time to learn which role is best suited for you, but it doesn’t really matter. What\u2019s important is that both you and your partner enjoy the activity together. Let’s take a look at the various forms BDSM and sadomasochism take…<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It\u2019s not necessary to have a man as the dom, a woman can be the dom and her man will be the sub<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Bondage and Discipline.<\/strong> <\/p>\n\n\n\n

It’s a fine line between pleasure and pain
You’ve done it once you can do it again
Whatever you’ve done don’t try to explain
It’s a fine, fine line between pleasure and pain….<\/p>Chrissy Amphlett and the Divinyls<\/cite><\/blockquote><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Bondage is to physically control your partner by tying him or her up. This might involve using handcuffs, rope, plain cloth, velvet cuffs or any equipment that is safe. Discipline is to enforce obedience and to give punishment when rules aren\u2019t followed. Spanking is probably the most common form of punishment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Domination and Submission. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dominance is the power to control the scene. Submission is to be forced to obey the dominant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sadism and Masochism. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sadism is the practice of causing hurt, pain, or shame to others as a way of obtaining enjoyment, particularly sexual satisfaction. Masochism is the act of obtaining sexual satisfaction from being physically hurt and humiliated by the dominant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Below is a link to a video presentation that can further help you understand BDSM.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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