{"id":155,"date":"2020-11-17T20:18:48","date_gmt":"2020-11-17T20:18:48","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/stories.mysecretdrawer.co\/2020\/11\/17\/if-you-really-enjoy-getting-kinky-in-public\/"},"modified":"2020-11-17T20:18:48","modified_gmt":"2020-11-17T20:18:48","slug":"if-you-really-enjoy-getting-kinky-in-public","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mysecretdrawer.co\/stories\/if-you-really-enjoy-getting-kinky-in-public\/","title":{"rendered":"If You Really Enjoy Getting Kinky in Public \u2026"},"content":{"rendered":"

Not everyone sees the same things as they walk the city streets. For some, unremarkable spots \u2013 a chipped and faded doorway, a quiet graveyard, or a deep alley by the railway tracks \u2013 are just part of the urban landscape. Others see something else entirely.<\/p>

To an English couple visiting New York City not too long ago, a pizza shop was apparently as good a place as any for a little lovemaking. <\/p>

In 2017, Daniella Hirst and Craig Smith<\/a> were caught on CCTV engaging in sex acts in a Domino\u2019s Pizza delivery shop in Scarborough, New York. Various versions of the security footage went viral, and the two became instant internet sensations.   <\/p>

The choppy, 18-minute long version shows the couple ordering a 12-inch pizza right before Hirst performs oral sex on Smith. The couple then have sex while leaning on the counter, close to the till.<\/p>

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To an English couple visiting New York City not too long ago, a pizza shop was apparently as good a place as any for a little lovemaking. <\/figcaption><\/figure>

Delivery staff are seen walking past the amorous lovers from time to time. Other employees are seen working on the other side of the counter. It\u2019s unclear exactly when they became aware of what the two customers were actually doing.<\/p>

New York City authorities ordered Hirst and Smith to appear before the Scarborough Magistrates Court in September that year. The couple pled guilty on charges of outraging public decency.<\/p>

While the offense could have earned the pair some serious jail time, the judge sentenced the passionate duo to 12 months of community service, instead.<\/p>

\u201cThe obscene act in question was viewed over [surveillance video],\u201d the couple\u2019s lawyer, Scott McLaughlin, said in their defense. \u201cNo one at the time of the incident complained.\u201d<\/p>

The Thrill of Getting Kinky in Public<\/h2>

For some, the thrill of potentially getting caught adds an irresistible high to sex. But sex in public obviously poses an array of fairly substantive logistical problems.<\/p>

First, depending on where you live, it\u2019s almost certainly illegal. That means getting caught may entail some real time behind bars.<\/p>

Second, even if you don\u2019t get caught, there\u2019s the possibility of someone filming \u2013 then uploading – your exploits, thereby consigning you to a lifetime of infamy.<\/p>

Finally, and perhaps most importantly, there are issues of consent involved. Having an unwilling party witness your sexual activity goes against the necessity of ensuring that everyone agrees to participate in your adventure.<\/p>

You might want to pause and read the above paragraph again!<\/p>

\u201cThere\u2019s nothing inherently unethical about exhibitionism<\/a>,\u201d says psychologist Dr. Lori Beth Bisbey. \u201cThe only time it would be unethical if you were exhibiting yourself in a place where people haven\u2019t consented, for example, in front of families, children, or the general public.\u201d<\/p>

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For some, the thrill of potentially getting caught adds an irresistible kink to sex.<\/figcaption><\/figure>

Good Vibrations<\/h3>

Don\u2019t despair, however. Whatever the reasons for subverting your urge for subversion, there are endless creative \u2013 and less perilous \u2013 ways to satisfy your fetish for public kink.<\/p>

If you like testing the boundaries of social decency, psychological play and covert kinkiness could be just the thing for you.<\/p>

For example, wearing kinky things under otherwise appropriate attire is a fairly common \u2013 and relatively foolproof – favorite. There are a wide variety of plugs you can use under your clothes for a few hours with the right preparation.<\/p>

Some of them come with remote controls that your partner can hold and use to summon you \u2013 say – during a party. Everyone will think your lover can beckon you telepathically. That should be a kick in and of itself.<\/p>

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There are a wide variety of plugs you can use under your clothes for a few hours with the right preparation.<\/figcaption><\/figure>

Underwear Games<\/h3>

Depending on your gender identity, your choice of underwear can be a thrilling twist to your sex life, as well. If you and your significant other happen to be into BDSM, a submissive and dominant could negotiate rather interesting underwear games together.<\/p>

For example, on a quiet movie night at home, you can arrange that a usually feminine-presenting submissive wears tighty-whities, or a masculine-presenting person wears lacy knickers<\/a>.<\/p>

In public, when you two are out and about, you might also arrange this sort of covert underwear-play in conjunction with plugs as previously described.<\/p>

Then there\u2019s going commando, of course. Many ladies feel instantly sexier \u2013 and even friskier – outside of the house by foregoing panties for a day.<\/p>

The writer, Meaghan Ward, says she often goes commando when wearing long skirts. But she especially enjoys going without underwear when she\u2019s in jeans.<\/p>

\u201cRubbing my wet slit against the seam of my pants when no one knows the wiser is a total turn on for me,\u201d she writes in an article for Medium<\/em>. \u201cJust like doing kegels, no one has to know what is going on in your pants!\u201d<\/p>

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Many ladies feel instantly sexier \u2013 and even friskier – outside of the house by foregoing panties for a day.<\/figcaption><\/figure>

Touching Each Other in Public<\/h3>

If you and your partner are feeling particularly affectionate and cannot get to a bedroom fast enough, you can always build anticipation by touching each other. Kiss, hold hands, touch each other\u2019s behinds once in a while when you\u2019re walking down the street.<\/p>

When you\u2019re sitting at dinner with friends, rub your legs against each other and let your hands wander stealthily under the table.<\/p>

If you\u2019re in a crowded elevator, reach back and stealthily slip your hands into your partner\u2019s pants. But do make sure you\u2019re not grabbing someone else\u2019s package.<\/p>

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Kiss, hold hands, touch each other\u2019s behinds once in a while when you\u2019re walking down the street.<\/figcaption><\/figure>

If You Must \u2026<\/h3>

If secretive kinky behavior isn\u2019t enough for you, and you simply must have at it in a public place, Bisbey suggests that you consider the location carefully.<\/p>

Be extra aware if you are having sex out in nature. There may not be too many people around, but we all know that nature likes to spring her own surprises.<\/p>

If you\u2019re going to have sex in an open field, bring a blanket. If you prefer the beach, bring a towel. If you\u2019re going to have sex in the car in the middle of nowhere, turn the AC on.<\/p>

\"If
If secretive kinky behavior isn\u2019t enough for you, and you simply must have at it in a public place, experts suggest that you consider the location heedfully.<\/figcaption><\/figure>

\u201cIf you are in the woods, be careful of irritating or poisonous plants and hostile or poisonous animals, and pay attention to the weather so you don\u2019t get sunburn or frostbite,\u201d Bisbey says.<\/p>

If you\u2019re in the office, it\u2019s best to arrange an exit plan even before you start canoodling. By exit plan, we mean a safe, good-sized window you can climb out of, or a back entrance through which you can abscond, should management come knocking.<\/p>

Keep in mind that, depending on your employer\u2019s policies, you just may end up losing your job.<\/p>

If \u2013 in the gravest extreme – you are cornered, do like a real commando and conceal yourself as best you can.<\/p>

\u201cYou want to make the biggest hole possible to hide in,\u201d said the famous British SAS ranger, Andy McNab, about actual combat behind enemy lines.<\/p>

You might want to do the same should capture seem imminent.<\/p>

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