{"id":129,"date":"2020-10-21T00:28:18","date_gmt":"2020-10-21T00:28:18","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/stories.mysecretdrawer.co\/2020\/10\/21\/become-a-red-hot-cougar-with-these-5-expert-tips\/"},"modified":"2020-10-21T00:28:18","modified_gmt":"2020-10-21T00:28:18","slug":"become-a-red-hot-cougar-with-these-5-expert-tips","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mysecretdrawer.co\/stories\/become-a-red-hot-cougar-with-these-5-expert-tips\/","title":{"rendered":"Become a Red-Hot Cougar with These 5 Expert Tips"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"has-drop-cap\">The term \u201ccougar\u201d has become a loaded word over the past decade, partly because of the media\u2019s fascination with the dalliances of celebrities like Madonna and Katie Couric. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But beyond the hype, sociologists say the recent erosion of relationship barriers, which isn\u2019t limited to race and gender, actually does appear particularly evident among mature women.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>New research shows a <a href=\"https:\/\/consumer.healthday.com\/encyclopedia\/aging-1\/age-health-news-7\/older-women-younger-men-647607.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">demographic shift<\/a> is being driven by the new choices that women over 35 are making as they redefine the concept of a suitable mate.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cFor a long time we\u2019ve been fed this idea that women should look for a man to take care of her, a man that is more educated, has a better job and makes more money,\u201d says Sandra Caron, a professor of family relations and human sexuality at the University of Maine.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cBut when you look at adult women today, most are self-sufficient and they don\u2019t have to look for that.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You\u2019ll find the upshot everywhere. Cougar cruises are setting sail, boomers are gracing steamy print ads, and cougar communities are cropping up online.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/mysecretdrawer.co\/stories\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/12\/2020\/10\/COUGAR-3-unsplash-david-hurley.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-51909\" \/><figcaption>Sociologists say the recent erosion of relationship barriers, which isn\u2019t limited to race and gender, is particularly evident among mature women.<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">How to Become a Real Cougar<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>There is so much cougar excitement these days that we now even have fake cougars and real cougars. So, what exactly is a cougar, anyway?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In terms of age, a cougar can be defined as a woman in her late thirties or older. She is successful, independent, hot, and ready to meet younger men.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But being a cougar is more about attitude, sass, and boldness than anything else.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If you own it, you\u2019ll more likely pull it off looking sexier and more seductive than you\u2019ve ever been.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Do everything else right and you\u2019ll be on your way to an exhilarating sexual reawakening.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>That said, below are five choice tips on how to unleash the sexy, stone-cold cougar purring inside of you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">1. Be independent. Men will want you even more for it.<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>The allure of the mature woman is rooted in being financially and emotionally independent. These days, a true cougar doesn&#8217;t need a man by her side to make her feel whole.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>That means, first and foremost, that you should have your own friends, your own hobbies, and your own meaningful career or passion.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The younger men you\u2019ll meet will be used to having young girls who are needy and who try to take up all of their time. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You&#8217;ll show them that you&#8217;re different. That is, that you don&#8217;t really need them. They will want you more for it, according to experts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cYoung men nowadays recognize that older women are adept at diligently juggling so many responsibilities &nbsp;&#8211; career, children, housekeeping, fitness, finances, socializing &#8211; &nbsp;which makes them intriguing and attractive and a more secure option,\u201d&nbsp; says psychologist and relationship therapist Sam Owen.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/mysecretdrawer.co\/stories\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/12\/2020\/10\/COUGAR-2.jpg\" alt=\"These days, a true cougar doesn't need a man by her side to make her feel whole.\" class=\"wp-image-51908\" \/><figcaption>These days, a true cougar doesn&#8217;t need a man by her side to make her feel whole.<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">2. Update your wardrobe. Go for subtle sensuality, not overt sexuality.<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>One of the most important things to keep in mind is that you should always dress your age. Sure, you can buy clothes from youth-oriented shops, but choose clothing and shoes that speak to your well-earned sophistication.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Get yourself some <a href=\"https:\/\/mysecretdrawer.co\/instashop\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" class=\"broken_link\">sensuous, sexy lingerie<\/a>, as well. Powerful, sexually attractive cougar women wear the latest fashions and styles even in the bedroom.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cThink Sophia Loren,\u201d says couples-mediator and educator Debra Macleod. \u201cCan you picture her wearing a MILF tee-shirt in her forties? Or sporting sweatpants with the word &#8220;juicy&#8221; scrawled across her buttocks in glitter?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You don\u2019t have to shop at the most expensive stores. You just need to find clothes that flatter your body and make you look sexually attractive.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If you have drop-dead gorgeous legs, flaunt them. If you have ample breasts, highlight some deep, soft cleavage. But do remember to aim for subtle sensuality rather than overt sexuality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/mysecretdrawer.co\/stories\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/12\/2020\/10\/COUGAR-5.jpg\" alt=\"Aim for subtle sensuality rather than overt sexuality when you upgrade your wardrobe.\" class=\"wp-image-51911\" \/><figcaption>Aim for subtle sensuality rather than overt sexuality when you upgrade your wardrobe.<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\">3. Embrace your life experiences. You\u2019re sexier because of them.<\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p>To be clear, the goal is not to look younger than you really are. Do not attempt to look like someone who could be your daughter. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If you dress like a 20-year old, have your hair cut like a 20-year old, and behave like a 20-year old, you\u2019ll look like an older woman who is trying to look younger.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You shouldn\u2019t try to be eye candy in the same way younger women are. They are in the midst of their springtime. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You\u2019ve had yours and now you\u2019ve come away all the more beautiful for it. Build on that beauty, don\u2019t hide it. &nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Perhaps more importantly, be genuine and embrace your life&#8217;s experiences, including motherhood. Don\u2019t try to play mind games with younger men simply because they lack experience.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cMind games are very much the environ of the younger girl,\u201d says writer and journalist Gareth Rubin in <em>The Telegraph<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cPast 40, women are utterly upfront about where you\u2019re going very wrong &#8211; brutal, certainly, but an easier way to live in so many other respects.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/mysecretdrawer.co\/stories\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/12\/2020\/10\/cougar-9.jpg\" alt=\"You shouldn\u2019t try to be eye candy in the same way younger women are. \" class=\"wp-image-51914\" \/><figcaption>You shouldn\u2019t try to be eye candy in the same way younger women are.<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">4. Get into shape. Take pride in your physical appearance.<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>To be a cougar, you\u2019ll need to look like one. That means you\u2019ll need to take extra care of your body. It\u2019s all right not to want to look like a centerfold, but you should take good enough care of yourself so that you project poise and self-assurance.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Get in shape by eating well and exercising. Do those crunches. Lift those weights. Being fit is a remarkably effective way to build self-confidence. That\u2019s a crucial component of your cougar charm.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cOlder women walk in confidence and it shows,\u201d say psychiatrist Dawn Brown and writer Angela McChan in an article for<em> Regain<\/em>. \u201cThe way she talks, listens, and walks screams confidence in every area of her life.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Choose a good skin care regime for your face and hands, too. If you have not consulted a professional beautician in a while, now would be an excellent time to start \u2013 even though you already look smashing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/mysecretdrawer.co\/stories\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/12\/2020\/10\/cougar-8.jpg\" alt=\"Get in shape by eating well and exercising. \" class=\"wp-image-51913\" \/><figcaption>Get in shape by eating well and exercising.<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">5. Celebrate your body and yourself. Have a boudoir shoot.<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Have a boudoir shoot done. Yes, that\u2019s right \u2013 you have every reason to sex it up for the camera.&nbsp; Go ahead and let a professional photographer and make-up artist make you look and feel your sexiest. Take the occasion to remind yourself of how gorgeous you are.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>There is a widely held misconception that only young women are attractive enough to do boudoir photography. That\u2019s just flat-out wrong.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\"><p>If you have been thinking about having a boudoir shoot but have hesitated because you think you\u2019re too old, just go ahead and make that appointment. Boudoir shoots are great for women of all ages.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cSociety often seems designed to take away a woman\u2019s ability to feel attractive and sexy as she gets older,\u201d says photographer and social worker Stephanie Lynn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cKeep your perspective on aging positive and empowering with an invigorating boudoir session.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/mysecretdrawer.co\/stories\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/12\/2020\/10\/COUGAR-1.jpg\" alt=\"Go ahead and let a professional photographer and make-up artist make you look and feel your sexiest.\" class=\"wp-image-51907\" \/><figcaption>Go ahead and let a professional photographer and make-up artist make you look and feel your sexiest.<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Assuming the Right Attitude<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Sociologists say women over 35 are faced with the tightest \u201crelationship squeeze.\u201d As a demographic, they have the smallest pool of available and compatible men.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The reason is that, as more and more women have delayed marriage, men have retained a tendency to date and marry younger women.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If you&#8217;re setting out to become a cougar, you should know that you\u2019ll be running against many people&#8217;s traditional ideas about how a woman your age should behave.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>People will likely tease you for going out clubbing instead of staying home. And you are likely to find that women can be crueler than men in that department.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Be ready to shrug it all off. Once you\u2019ve decided to go down the &#8216;cougar path&#8217;, you really won\u2019t have time to dwell on other people\u2019s opinions on what should make you happy, anyway.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Whatever problems you might encounter, try to leave them at the door before you go out. If you&#8217;re serious about dating a younger man, you can communicate with him candidly in time. But always try to keep things fun and light when you go out on dates.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This doesn&#8217;t mean that you should lie if you\u2019ve just gone through a difficult divorce. Be open about the things you\u2019ve experienced, but reserve the serious discussion for later.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Above all, stand tall and proud of the mature, classy woman that you\u2019ve become. If that younger man is really worth your attention, he\u2019ll appreciate you even more for it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>What&#8217;s your story? Are you a cougar or a cougar lover? Why not share your thoughts by reviewing this story?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator\" \/>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>If you&#8217;re setting out to become a cougar, you should know that you\u2019ll be running against traditional ideas about how a woman your age should behave. 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