{"id":119,"date":"2020-10-09T04:00:58","date_gmt":"2020-10-09T04:00:58","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/stories.mysecretdrawer.co\/2020\/10\/09\/mind-blowing-what-women-really-think-about-when-they-climax\/"},"modified":"2020-10-09T04:00:58","modified_gmt":"2020-10-09T04:00:58","slug":"mind-blowing-what-women-really-think-about-when-they-climax","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mysecretdrawer.co\/stories\/mind-blowing-what-women-really-think-about-when-they-climax\/","title":{"rendered":"Mind-Blowing: What Women Really Think About When They Climax"},"content":{"rendered":"

If you know a woman who claims never to have let her mind wander during sex, tell her she is missing the point.<\/p>

To be clear, the female orgasm is still something of a mystery: nobody is really sure how it is caused or why. Gradually, however, scientists have been uncovering the real secrets to an explosive sex life and, apparently, for women, it\u2019s all in the mind.<\/p>

Of course, this is not a new insight. In 2014, researchers from the University of Louvain found that women who have \u2018erotic thoughts\u2019 during intercourse were more likely to have regular orgasms.<\/p>

Similarly, a study in 2011 found a link between women who have difficulty climaxing and their inability to think no-holds-barred, wild-and-sexy thoughts during sex.<\/p>

\"In — In 2014, researchers from the University of Louvain found that women who have \u2018erotic thoughts\u2019 during intercourse were more likely to have regular orgasms.<\/figcaption><\/figure>
What Women Think About<\/h2>
Women are wired differently than men. That became clear some years back, when researchers began experimenting with brain imaging equipment to investigate what goes on inside a woman\u2019s brain during sex.<\/p>
\u201cThe pleasure centers of the brain associated with orgasm light up in women who think themselves to orgasm in exactly the same way as in women who orgasm through more conventional means,\u201d says Dr Barry Komisaruk, co-author of *The Science of Orgasm<\/em>.<\/p>*
So, what do women think about when they\u2019re masturbating or having sex? What thoughts flood their minds when they climax? Below are four revealing highlights from the findings of recent studies.<\/p>
1. ‘Kinky’ sex fantasies get women in the mood.<\/h3>
Fifty-four percent of women enjoy immersing themselves in a sexual fantasy<\/a> to get themselves in the mood, compared to just 44 percent of men. This according to a study commissioned by TENGA, a Japanese company that manufactures sexual wellness products.<\/p>
The results of a separate study in the US says the most common fantasies are having sex with multiple people and sex with a famous person. <\/p>
Other female fantasies curl deeper into the kink \u2013 much deeper, according to TV presenter Cherry Healey and writer Lisa Williams in a report for *Stylist<\/em>.<\/p>*
*This is especially true when women masturbate. <\/p>*
\u201cSome women think about having sex with animals, others think about sex with faceless strangers,\u201d say Healey and Williams. \u201cThen there\u2019s rape, domination, gender-bending and lots of same-sex encounters.\u201d<\/p>
*$\"Fifty-four$* Fifty-four percent of women enjoy immersing themselves in a sexual fantasy to get themselves in the mood, compared to just 44 percent of men.
(Photo: Halayek\/Freepik)<\/figcaption><\/figure>
2. She just might be thinking about someone else.<\/h3>
In a survey of 1,300 people, researchers commissioned by sex toy company Lovehoney found that more women think about other people during sex than men do. <\/p>
While 46 percent of women admitted to thinking about people other than their partner at the moment, only 42 percent of men said the same.<\/p>
Often, a woman will fantasize about doing it with a close friend or a co-worker rather than with her husband or boyfriend. <\/p>
Relationship therapist Elizabeth Earnshaw is quick to point out that this isn\u2019t something for which a woman should feel guilty.<\/p>
\u201cMaybe you haven\u2019t created a sexual narrative with your current partner yet, and you might just need more time getting to know your partner sexually,\u201d says Earnshaw. <\/p>
The therapist says women do not need to let their partners know they sometimes think about former lovers during sex. “Instead, it\u2019s more important to try to get at the root of why you were thinking of them,\u201d says Earnshaw.<\/p>
$\"Often,$
Often, a woman will fantasize about doing it with a close friend or a co-worker rather than with her husband or boyfriend.<\/figcaption><\/figure>
3. Women would watch porn, too, if only \u2026<\/h3>
Fantasies and other people were closely followed by pornography. Some 35 percent of the female respondents to the TENGA survey said they \u201cview adult content\u201d as part of their masturbation routine.<\/p>
Interestingly, the survey found that men are twice as likely to watch porn when they masturbate. Sixty-six percent of the male respondents to the survey said they watched porn when they masturbate.<\/p>
Sex educator Shan Boodram attributes the difference to a cultural bias in a marketplace geared for men. <\/p>
Porn producers simply aren\u2019t making movies that women want to watch.<\/p>
\u201cIf you have a penis, hate foreplay, don\u2019t care for toys, approach the clitoris like a third nipple and love over-the-top sounds, mainstream porn is great,\u201d says Boodram. \u201cFor everyone else, there\u2019s much to be desired.\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>
That said, the percentage of women who consume porn has increased over the past few years. In 2016 and 2017, only around 26 percent of women worldwide watched porn. <\/p>
By 2018, that figure had jumped to 29 percent, according to research commissioned by Pornhub.<\/p>
Across the board, women\u2019s top search inquiries are \u201clesbian,\u201d or lesbian-related. This has become especially true in recent years, says Pornhub.<\/p>
$\"Some$
Some 35 percent of the female respondents to a recent survey said they \u201cview adult content\u201d as part of their masturbation routine.<\/figcaption><\/figure>
4. Women get really turned on by erotic literature.<\/h3>
Men might watch porn more than women, but women certainly read more erotica. <\/p>
Around 15 percent of the women surveyed by TENGA said they masturbated to erotic stories. Only nine percent of the male respondents said the same.<\/p>
This should come as no surprise as women dominate the scene. They are not only the predominant readers of erotica but they also claim the lion\u2019s share of authors. <\/p>
Publishers spent around $11 billion on erotic literature written by women in 2011 alone.<\/p>
A survey of female writers of erotica says that women are ready to push boundaries when it comes to erotic fiction. <\/p>
Almost half of the authors responding to Emmanuelle\u2019s survey<\/a> mentioned some degree of discontent with formulaic, restrictive expectations, and publishing rules.<\/p>
\u201cMuch of what passes for erotica today feels stale, too often reflecting romance tropes,\u201d says writer Nya Rawlands. \u201cI\u2019m interested in how an individual changes under conditions of denial or when personal and other boundaries are smashed.\u201d<\/p>
$\"Around$
Around 15 percent of the women surveyed by TENGA said they masturbated to erotic stories. (Photo: Racool Studio\/Freepik)<\/figcaption><\/figure>
The Secret to a Mind-Blowing Orgasm<\/h3>
Many women find sex to be the deepest expression of love and connection. Many more are sexually-oriented, and while the male orgasm might be quicker, the female orgasm is often more powerful. Women are also capable of a consecutive series of mind-blowing peaks.<\/p>
That\u2019s because for women, sex begins and ends in the mind.<\/p>
For women, it\u2019s not so much about so much about physical stimulation as it is about permitting their imaginations to flow as they enjoy what\u2019s happening in reality. <\/p>
Throw love into that heaving, quivering mix and you have the recipe for a thunderous, back-clawing climax.<\/p>
\u201cFor her, it\u2019s the fantasizing, remembering, and imagining hot sex that revs her engine,\u201d says sex therapist Laurie Watson for *Psychology Today<\/em>.<\/p>*
*\u201cSo, in times of infatuation or falling in love – when she is constantly thinking about being together – her sexual appetite is high, and arousal is easy.\u201d<\/p>*
*What’s your story? What ‘floats your boat’? Why not tell us about it via the review section below…<\/p>*
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In 2014, researchers from the University of Louvain found that women who have \u2018erotic thoughts\u2019 during intercourse were more likely to have regular orgasms.<\/figcaption><\/figure>
What Women Think About<\/h2>
Women are wired differently than men. That became clear some years back, when researchers began experimenting with brain imaging equipment to investigate what goes on inside a woman\u2019s brain during sex.<\/p>
\u201cThe pleasure centers of the brain associated with orgasm light up in women who think themselves to orgasm in exactly the same way as in women who orgasm through more conventional means,\u201d says Dr Barry Komisaruk, co-author of *The Science of Orgasm<\/em>.<\/p>*
So, what do women think about when they\u2019re masturbating or having sex? What thoughts flood their minds when they climax? Below are four revealing highlights from the findings of recent studies.<\/p>
1. ‘Kinky’ sex fantasies get women in the mood.<\/h3>
Fifty-four percent of women enjoy immersing themselves in a sexual fantasy<\/a> to get themselves in the mood, compared to just 44 percent of men. This according to a study commissioned by TENGA, a Japanese company that manufactures sexual wellness products.<\/p>
The results of a separate study in the US says the most common fantasies are having sex with multiple people and sex with a famous person. <\/p>
Other female fantasies curl deeper into the kink \u2013 much deeper, according to TV presenter Cherry Healey and writer Lisa Williams in a report for *Stylist<\/em>.<\/p>*
*This is especially true when women masturbate. <\/p>*
\u201cSome women think about having sex with animals, others think about sex with faceless strangers,\u201d say Healey and Williams. \u201cThen there\u2019s rape, domination, gender-bending and lots of same-sex encounters.\u201d<\/p>
*$\"Fifty-four$* Fifty-four percent of women enjoy immersing themselves in a sexual fantasy to get themselves in the mood, compared to just 44 percent of men.
(Photo: Halayek\/Freepik)<\/figcaption><\/figure>
2. She just might be thinking about someone else.<\/h3>
In a survey of 1,300 people, researchers commissioned by sex toy company Lovehoney found that more women think about other people during sex than men do. <\/p>
While 46 percent of women admitted to thinking about people other than their partner at the moment, only 42 percent of men said the same.<\/p>
Often, a woman will fantasize about doing it with a close friend or a co-worker rather than with her husband or boyfriend. <\/p>
Relationship therapist Elizabeth Earnshaw is quick to point out that this isn\u2019t something for which a woman should feel guilty.<\/p>
\u201cMaybe you haven\u2019t created a sexual narrative with your current partner yet, and you might just need more time getting to know your partner sexually,\u201d says Earnshaw. <\/p>
The therapist says women do not need to let their partners know they sometimes think about former lovers during sex. “Instead, it\u2019s more important to try to get at the root of why you were thinking of them,\u201d says Earnshaw.<\/p>
$\"Often,$
Often, a woman will fantasize about doing it with a close friend or a co-worker rather than with her husband or boyfriend.<\/figcaption><\/figure>
3. Women would watch porn, too, if only \u2026<\/h3>
Fantasies and other people were closely followed by pornography. Some 35 percent of the female respondents to the TENGA survey said they \u201cview adult content\u201d as part of their masturbation routine.<\/p>
Interestingly, the survey found that men are twice as likely to watch porn when they masturbate. Sixty-six percent of the male respondents to the survey said they watched porn when they masturbate.<\/p>
Sex educator Shan Boodram attributes the difference to a cultural bias in a marketplace geared for men. <\/p>
Porn producers simply aren\u2019t making movies that women want to watch.<\/p>
\u201cIf you have a penis, hate foreplay, don\u2019t care for toys, approach the clitoris like a third nipple and love over-the-top sounds, mainstream porn is great,\u201d says Boodram. \u201cFor everyone else, there\u2019s much to be desired.\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>
That said, the percentage of women who consume porn has increased over the past few years. In 2016 and 2017, only around 26 percent of women worldwide watched porn. <\/p>
By 2018, that figure had jumped to 29 percent, according to research commissioned by Pornhub.<\/p>
Across the board, women\u2019s top search inquiries are \u201clesbian,\u201d or lesbian-related. This has become especially true in recent years, says Pornhub.<\/p>
$\"Some$
Some 35 percent of the female respondents to a recent survey said they \u201cview adult content\u201d as part of their masturbation routine.<\/figcaption><\/figure>
4. Women get really turned on by erotic literature.<\/h3>
Men might watch porn more than women, but women certainly read more erotica. <\/p>
Around 15 percent of the women surveyed by TENGA said they masturbated to erotic stories. Only nine percent of the male respondents said the same.<\/p>
This should come as no surprise as women dominate the scene. They are not only the predominant readers of erotica but they also claim the lion\u2019s share of authors. <\/p>
Publishers spent around $11 billion on erotic literature written by women in 2011 alone.<\/p>
A survey of female writers of erotica says that women are ready to push boundaries when it comes to erotic fiction. <\/p>
Almost half of the authors responding to Emmanuelle\u2019s survey<\/a> mentioned some degree of discontent with formulaic, restrictive expectations, and publishing rules.<\/p>
\u201cMuch of what passes for erotica today feels stale, too often reflecting romance tropes,\u201d says writer Nya Rawlands. \u201cI\u2019m interested in how an individual changes under conditions of denial or when personal and other boundaries are smashed.\u201d<\/p>
$\"Around$
Around 15 percent of the women surveyed by TENGA said they masturbated to erotic stories. (Photo: Racool Studio\/Freepik)<\/figcaption><\/figure>
The Secret to a Mind-Blowing Orgasm<\/h3>
Many women find sex to be the deepest expression of love and connection. Many more are sexually-oriented, and while the male orgasm might be quicker, the female orgasm is often more powerful. Women are also capable of a consecutive series of mind-blowing peaks.<\/p>
That\u2019s because for women, sex begins and ends in the mind.<\/p>
For women, it\u2019s not so much about so much about physical stimulation as it is about permitting their imaginations to flow as they enjoy what\u2019s happening in reality. <\/p>
Throw love into that heaving, quivering mix and you have the recipe for a thunderous, back-clawing climax.<\/p>
\u201cFor her, it\u2019s the fantasizing, remembering, and imagining hot sex that revs her engine,\u201d says sex therapist Laurie Watson for *Psychology Today<\/em>.<\/p>*
*\u201cSo, in times of infatuation or falling in love – when she is constantly thinking about being together – her sexual appetite is high, and arousal is easy.\u201d<\/p>*
*What’s your story? What ‘floats your boat’? Why not tell us about it via the review section below…<\/p>*
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